You won't always agree with your partners. You will have differing interests and sometimes when you talk about your passion the other person's eyes will glaze over. There will be miscommunications and misunderstandings. There will be schedule conflicts and sometimes you'll end up sleeping alone.
Some weeks, no one will want to do laundry and it will pile up. Dishes will swim in the sink's dirty water when the dishwasher is empty, there will be bugs in spring and summer. Someone will eat your leftovers. Every once in a while you'll step in cat puke.
There will be political differences and there will be conflict. You can't fix the world and you can't fix your family. A person's rage or fear or sadness will be triggered by an event and there will be nothing you can do but hold space for them.
You'll learn about yourself and how you react. You'll learn to do the little things that say "I love you" and you'll learn to listen for when your partner says it back. You'll learn the long lesson of setting healthy boundaries and how to communicate.
If you're very lucky, you'll learn to forgive.
It's not quick, it's not easy. But if you can set expectations, advocate for yourself and your partners, and live according to your morality, there's a great reward in having an adult relationship between partners who pull their weight and support one another.
